Velma makes a match

Even a digital visit to this scentshop is relaxing:

She plucked a white chair from the front porch.  In the garden she made a spot in the lavender and just dumped all her yarn on the flagstones.  Onlookers would think her mad, surely.  She undid half-finished projects in the color scheme, and collected all the blues, violets, purples, pushing them toward the fragrant lavender.  Squinting, thinking, rolling some away, adding in some greens.  Velma had been meaning to spend an afternoon this way. She and Vesta had their city itinerary planned.  While Vesta was zooming around as usual in her Model A, going to book groups, collecting the post, shopping, and giving talks, Velma was resting, pulling herself together in anticipation of their trip to New York.

This shop uses beautiful fabrics made from the owner’s watercolors! :

She chose a palette for her next project and retired to the porch for the afternoon, devouring her latest book in the sweet warm breeze.  When it came time for New York City, she would be ready.



About AngelaLTodd

I am queen of the helicopter parents. But there are enough of us that we are becoming a social problem. Here’s my story. Thing 1 was coming, they couldn’t stop him, it was only 24 weeks and 3 days. Someone asked: should we try to save him? Well, yes. Yes! Ten days later, a team of doctors closed the door behind us to explain brain bleeds, sepsis, meningitis. Shall we pull the plug? Well, no. No! Babydaddy laid hands on him every day, massaged him when he was ready. For the three months he was in intensive care, and the three weeks at an intermediate hospital, I would get up in the night and pump breast milk, thinking about my baby across town. Babydaddy delivered it every morning, earning the name “milkman.” It was funny. We had every therapy going for as long as possible: early intervention, the intermediate unit, private therapies. Terms multiplied: sensory processing dysfunction, sensory integration problems, orally defensive, auditory sensitivities, comprehensive developmental delay, cognitive function impairment, retinopathy of prematurity. He did occupational therapy, physical therapy, speech therapy, play therapy; we consulted with a neurologist, school psychologist, wraparound service provider, developmental specialist. He worked with an occupational therapist for a year and a half to tolerate teeth and hair brushing. Not surprisingly, parenting didn’t feel natural. I learned to read to my baby watching Phyllis, our physical therapist. Voices, commentary, labeling colors, counting… she was very good! Merging professional research skills with my genetic propensity for silliness (mom was class clown, dad’s distantly related to Lucille Ball), my mothering style came together. Eventually. But I still channel Phyllis on occasion. Thing 2 was full term. They are complete opposites; she is a sensory seeker with a wild sense of adventure and an inventive sense of fashion. Keeping them both busy and happy is an exasperating and sweet challenge. I still believe that every day can be fun and educational while reinforcing kids' boundaries. I’m on a mission to save us helicopter parents from ourselves. No more bubble wrapped kids and guilty parents. Let’s teach them coping skills. Let’s get fun.
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