A really good outfit of your choosing. A zany sense of humor. And a fashion-permissive mom. What you won’t see here is a picture of earlier this day; she wore tights and a teeee-shirt to school. We delivered her with skirt in hand, but there’s only so much fighting one should do with a small girl. And, of course, it doesn’t really matter. I find myself invoking my friend Karen’s phrase “Apathy is your personal savior” more as a parent than even in Grad school.